June 2010
4 posts
Is Personal Holiness a big deal to God? →
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Where is God when you need Him? →
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September 2009
1 post
Have you ever loved so much that you would put up with anything? How about nagging?
Does God put up with your nagging?
August 2009
4 posts
When we lived in Oklahoma I would take my kids out to Red Rock Canyon west of Oklahoma City for an overnight camp out and a day of repelling. It was great fun. I only wish I had made time to do it more. Memories with my kids – great stuff. But that is not my point. I remember the last time we went I was in a hurry to pitch my tent and get the campfire started and the repelling lines set. I did not...
Anyone who has ever interviewed propective employees knows that even after the interview their is still risk. The reason is that you interview a person and discover their personality. After they have been working and become comfortable their character emerges and sometimes the two are quite different. I can hear the collective, “ahhhh yes” coming from some of you.
Consider this same idea in...
It was some years ago, and our family dog Rocky had been hit and killed by a car some months earlier. We really weren’t sure we were ready to get another dog. It seemed too much like we were trying to “replace” him. But, just outside our fence one day was a little mixed lab/something. He was black and really plumpy and he just wanted in our yard. It turned out, with a trip to the vet, that he was...
The chicken or the egg? Sure, you have wondered even if you didn’t care or think it mattered. Which came first? In some things it does matter – it’s called cause and effect. Early in a relationship feelings of love cause actions of love. But lasting love, deep love, fulfilling love, the kind of love we each really want reverses all this. The actions of love come first and cause the fellings of...
July 2009
12 posts
Always, always remember, God made marriage, God made the rules, God made the blessings. His ways will always result in your good. Follow Him not the world.
Hope you have enjoyed these 11 Secrets to marriage success
Don’t agree with your parents/in-laws until you are in agreement with your mate.
Communicate: Deeply. Frequently. Seriously. Respectfully. Honestly. Transparently. Openly.
Keep your eyes at home. Your heart will follow your eyes.
Repairing the Breach is the title of our upcoming Pastors & wives Conference in Missouri. Hear all about it on Bott Radio nationwide at 12:30 pm CT Saturday 7/18 and 3:00 pm CT Sunday 7/19. Check the Bott website for the station in your area. We want to see pastors join together to build families. Spread the word to your pastor.
If God’s way of doing things (found in the Bible) are different than your way, guess who has to change so the outcome is success?
Plan a “business meeting” with your mate with the same earnestness as you plan your work business meetings.
The pursuit of happiness is not found on the same path as the pursuit of stuff.
Work is not a higher priority than your marriage. Which makes the bigger sacrifice in your world?
Kids do not have a higher priority than your mate.
At a moment of relationship stress ask yourself, “is it more important that I be right or is it more important that our relationship be right?”
Stop what you are doing and listen – to each other.
June 2009
2 posts
One of the great rewards of staying with it during tough times, hanging in there when it seems like it would be easier to just move on, giving up because it seems noone should have to struggle so much, one of the great rewards is gathering everyone together - like is getting ready to happen for me and my family in 3 weeks - and watch my kids be parents and my grandkids smile and laugh when I make...
you probably know what you believe about how one gets to heaven. you probably know what you believe about absolute truth. you probably know what you believe about creation/evolution. But, do you know what you believe about marriage? Do you have a theology of marriage? You should. God does.
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May 2009
4 posts
The Cure for Anxiety
This morning I was reading through Matthew 6 when I noticed the heading for the portion of Scripture I was reading. It simply said, “The Cure for Anxiety”. As I paused for a moment to ponder that statement I thought to myself, ‘I need that!’ As I read through chapter 6 I realized how to cure anxiety…rather God knows the cure. Matthew 6:31 says, “Do not worry then, saying ‘What will we eat?’ or...
Memories v2.0
Over the weekend, I was sifting through some articles that a friend had sent me via twitter (follow us@RadicalMariage). The article topics ranged everywhere from couples devotionals to potty training your kids to hot summer vacation spots. However, there was one that stood out amongst the others.
A father was struggling to find a way to keep track and “archive” special moments that he was...
So What Is Marriage?
Has our culture become so enlightened that we have figured out the “better” way to be married? Is it all about performance, living up to expectations and getting what I need? Well, that sure is how it seems today. But oh, God has such a better plan. As Jesus says in Matthew 19:8b “But it was not like that from the beginning.” What was it like in the beginning? What was Jesus pointing back...